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I have been considering getting into text message dating... Essentially it is just like on-line chatting other than you deliver text messages and get to interact with new people that way. I believed it would be great to try it out because I am always using my Blackberry. I eventually signed up to TextNDate and tried it out. A buddy of mine sent me the web link over MSN and actually hyped it up, therefore i thought what the heck.

Right away I met this girl from Brooklyn. The lady sounded pretty great, turns out we are into many of the exact music, and are around the same age. We basically made plans to go out this friday for dinner so I will post how it went (of course, if interacting with girls with your mobile phone seriously is effective).

I became acquainted with a large amount of different girls as well, many promising as well as some kinda weird, nevertheless I made the decision to just target just a few considering it is a lot to keep track of! I wish I can figure out how to group my contacts on my cell phone, that'd help make it a bunch much easier to deal with. There are an unexpected number of girls by New York City to pick from.

The very best part about this seemed to be I can mail simple messages while I had been in the office, at the grocery store, no matter what, just like I had been texting my pals... Sometimes being stuck to the computer will get tedious you know? I had a pretty entertaining discussion with this one girl despite the fact that I had been visiting relatives even! Regardless if you're interested in learning everything click here to check out TextNDate, I suggest it for certain.

That is the last time I hook up with a girl in sales. I dunno what is wrong with these women but I guess being in sales for so long makes them really jaded and masculine. They are cool to hang out with as a friend but they do not make very good lovers. She would just say random things that were gross or act like a guy in too many ways. Also I hate listening to people talk who talk too much or repeat themselves. I guess the thing is that she is a bit obnoxious and that is not the kind of girl I am looking for. I should have taken that into consideration when I first met her but I have never dated a girl in sales before so I thought it would at least be an educational experience for me and I was right. I sent her an email last night explaining that I am looking for something long term right now and I just didn't see it working out that way. I have not got a reply yet and I may never get one. Part of me hopes I don't hear back from her because that would be so much easier lol. Work has been pretty busy lately which is a good thing since I am a workaholic lol.

I went through all the girls I was talking to actively and asked myself if I could see myself with them long term. In almost every case the answer was no so I just deleted them or sent them a message telling them that was the case. I am now down to two girls that are potential candidates but I have never met either of them. I have only been chatting with them. I realized that I do have very high expectations when it comes to the physical appearance of my potential long term mate and I am kidding myself to be talking to and dating girls that are not up to par with what I want so I am going to be far more picky from now on and if it means going on less dates and being lonely until I meet girls that fit this criteria so be it. One girl her name is Holly and she runs a spa. She is not quite as thin as I normally would like but her face is very very attractive and for me, the face is the most important thing. I am obsessed with gorgeous women. I would take a good looking woman that is slightly overweight vs a thin ugly girl. I really like her personality so far and I am anxious to meet her but she is not on MSN much.

The other one is this girl who is half Jamaican and half white. She is tall and good looking and she says she goes to the gym 5 days a week so she must have a nice body. I can kind of tell how hot she is from her pics but not totally. I will have to meet her in person to see if I am really attracted to her or not. Holly on the other hand has very very clear pictures of herself with no makeup and she looks damn good so I know I will like her, I just hope I can tolerate her body lol. She is tall also, I dunno what it is, but my whole life I have been with petite women and now all the women I am meeting are tall. I also fancied tall women, I mean my ideal girl is a model who does yoga basically lol. I have message both of them today telling them that it has been great chatting with them but I really want to meet them so when can we get together for coffee. Hopefully I will hear back from both of them very soon and get to go out on a couple of dates so I have something more interesting to post here on my blog for my next entry. Talk to y'all soon!

I am starting to notice the difference when I look in the mirror from all the hard work I have been doing with Sven. That guy is nuts and sometimes I get really mad at him because he pushes me so hard but at the end of the day I am grateful and happy that he is like this because I am seeing and feeling the results already. I know I am going to have to stick with it for at least another 90 days before I am going to see anything significant but at least I feel better physically and my cardio is much better now.

I did find 11 new girls to message and I also sent messages to a few of the older girls I was talking to in the past to see if there is anything there still. So far I have got back quite a few replies and clearly these girls are liking what they see and hear thus far. I am talking to 4 of these girls on MSN now and one of them I have been talking to on the phone because she is not very internet savvy and so she has never used instant messaging before and she said she would prefer to talk on the phone because that is what she is used to and also she said she really wanted to hear the sound of my voice. That is fine by me because I see that as better than talking on MSN. It is more personable and intimate to actually talk to someone with voice like on the phone or over voice chat like Skype but there is some good things about MSN. The main good thing is you can say things and ask questions more easily. I find it easier to discuss more intense subjects via msn because it is so inpersonable and you can't physically hear or feel any awkwardness.

The girls that I have been talking to are all various ages and different personalities. I am excited to be talking to so many different girls at once and I am seeing things in a whole new perspective. It is amazing how their cultural differences translate into the dating scene. There are a lot of hot girls in New York City and I am happy to get a chance to meet so many different girls and learning lots about them. I have to say I am learning a lot about women in general from this whole experience. I am working on setting up some dates for this coming weekend with some of the girls. The one thing that I am balancing now is that I have put out messages to multiple girls about going out with me this weekend and if more than 2 of them say yes then I am going to have to work something out or turn some of them down because it is not possible to go on more 2 dates this weekend, one on Saturday and one on Sunday.

Well I have been back working out at the gym with a vengeance. I seen some younger guys last week that were looking so buff I was jealous as hell and decided I want to look like that. I want to look like I did when I was 21. Quite often women are attracted to me because I am smart, drive a nice car, wear nice clothes, and make lots of money but I want women to be attracted to me because I look hot and sexy I hired a personal trainer named Sven and he is quite the character. He pushes me really hard and that is something that I need because I get lazy easy when it comes to working out and I cheat and don't do as many reps or sets as I know I should. That is all different now that Sven is training me, he pushes me to do MORE reps and sets than I planned on doing. He is a slave driver but I can already feel the results so it's all good. He came highly recommended from a bunch of my buddies here in New York city.

Work has been quite busy and I am working on some pretty big deals right now, as usual. These big deals always take a long time to close and but when they finally do, it is all worth it and when they go sideways it always sucks big time because that means at least 90 days of work down the tubes Other than that life is pretty much the same workwise.

As far as women go, I have been slacking. The 20 girls I messaged, I got all kinds of messages back from them and some of them I followed up on but most of them I didn't contact back right away so I assume most of the have moved on or perhaps even met new guys already and are in relationships. I went through all the messages this morning and made a point of messaging each girl with something meaningful so I can qualify each one and shorten my short list, well I guess I mean make a short list of girls that have potential. Later tonight I am going to go through the whole site again and look at the new girls that have joined recently and see if there is anything that catches my eye. I am pretty sure I will find at least 10 new girls that I think are hot of various age ranges because so many new girls join the site every week. I will let you all know how that goes and also how the older girls I am working on go because I expect to get a lot of new messages over the weekend.

Last Saturday was my date with that white trash girl named Rhonda. I decided I would take her to a sports bar type place with good food that I know of called "The Mean Fiddler". I knew that it didn't matter how she dressed that no one would care and she would fit in, if anything I would stand out. So I went to pick her up and luckily she told me she would meet me at the entrance of her trailer park because I didn't feel like driving in there and also the road appeared to be quite bumpy and shit inside. We agreed to 7pm and I arrived at 6:55pm and pulled over and parked. Sitting there was not fun as I was being constantly eyeballed by two shady looking characters that were hanging around the entrance to the trailer park. Hopefully they were just drug dealers wondering if I was looking to score and not something I need to worry about in the future like Rhonda's half brothers or something crazy. She finally came out at 7:10 and was apologetic for being late and she said that she had to help her mother with something. It was a good thing that I picked the sportsbar to go to and not a normal restaurant because she looked really trashy and slutty and cheap looking. The ironic thing was though that she smelt amazing, she smelt very angelic and fruity and I was thinking this girl is definitely a dichotomy. Even though she is rough around the edges, she is a very positive person. It always amazes me when I meet someone who comes from such a shitty environment and yet they are the happiest most positive person around. Not only does it amaze me, but it make me feel inadequate but more about that thought later. She was very impressed by my car and was acting like a bit of a schoolgirl on the ride to the bar. We got there and ordered a pitcher of beer and some steaks. The steaks were really good because they used this awesome peppercorn sauce and the peppercorns were all various colors. I love that kind of stuff.

I noticed a few people staring at us and it was almost as if I could read the expression of judgment on their faces like what is this guy doing with this weird girl. I hate to admit it, but she does look weird. She is hot though, and nice and has a great personality and I feel a bit like The Taming of the Shrew where I feel compelled to change her into a more refined creature. A girl/woman that I would more normally be attracted to. But I wonder if I did get her to change if I would grow bored of that because that is what I am used to and perhaps the reason I am attracted to this girl is because she IS so different from what I am used to and what I think that I want. After dinner I took her to a movie. That was a different experience than I thought it was going to be. She ordered a massive thing of popcorn and then just chomped on the popcorn throughout the whole movie totally oblivious to my existence. I am going to assume she behaved this way because she is white trash and growing up probably didn't have a lot of movie experiences because she was poor.

After the movie I decided to drive her home and play it a bit coy and see how she would respond. I realized that she was a bit of a tomboy and wasn't used to acting very feminine. Also wasn't used to being around a man and not acting like one of the guys. She was very strong but at the same time very weak and inexperienced with men. Outside of her house she hugged me and I wanted to convert the hug into a kiss but she pulled away and then looked back as she was running to her door and said bye and waved.

I stood there disappointed for what felt like 5 minutes but I'm sure it wasn't actually that long. Now it is Friday and I haven't talked to her all week. She isn't online much because she only has internet when she goes to the internet cafe down the street and she doesn't have a phone. I am thinking about just driving over there and knocking on her door. In fact that is what I am going to do.

Still haven't heard back from Sharon yet. That whole situation makes me feel cheap and used. I have never had a girl just sleep with me and then never call me again. I have only experienced me doing it to them. This has given me a new perspective on life at least in terms of what women are capable of. I have been getting plenty of messages from Maria and I have been a bit cold to her because I am not really in a rush to go out with her again because of her baggage. The thing is the more I push this girl away, the more she wants me, so it's not really working out very good.

I went on a date with a Persian girl on Saturday night so lemme tell you about that. I took her to a place called Bottega del Vino which is a high end Italian restaurant. The place was pretty overpriced but the food was really good and so was the wine. She was very impressed with the place but then again she is only 23 years old so she hadn't experienced much in life I don't think. She was very attractive and I was looking at her arms to make sure they weren't too hairy because these middle eastern girls tend to have hairy arms but hers were ok. She had big bouncy natural breasts and they were quite distracting most of the night. She moved to New York from Iran when she was 12 years old. She told me some horror stories about her homeland and I was happy for her that she was able to get out of there and come live in the USA. She said she experiences racism for being from Iran and with everything going on in that country with the uranium processing etc I am not that surprised. I had a veal dish and she ate some vegetarian risotto which I sampled and it was really good. I miss having good risotto but I never order it at a restaurant because they usually serve it as a main course and who wants to eat nothing but rice as a meal?

We talked for a long time and she told me she hadn't really ever been in a real relationship before and that she had mainly hooked up with guys that were douche bags and bad boy type of guys and she wasn't sure why she liked those guys so much but said she wanted to find something more real and perhaps fall in love with someone. After dinner I suggested we go somewhere else for drinks but she suggested we go back to her place and I was like um... ok.

So we arrive at her condo by taxi and I am starting to feel nervous as I do not know what to expect from this girl. She seemed a bit conservative and reserved but after hearing about the kind of guys she was dating I started to think maybe this girl is a bit of a quiet wild one. We get into her small cozy apartment and I take off my shoes, turn around to start saying something and her lips are pressed up against mine and I was like wtf but yay. We ripped our clothes off on the way to the bedroom and I tripped on something and bailed on the ground hard. It was pretty distracting to be in pain but I suffered through it and got her onto the bed.

The next morning I laid there in her bed while she was in the shower thinking that was a bit of a surprise. I felt pretty good about myself and was tempted to just slip out the door and head on home but she emerged naked from the bathroom before I could leave and the next thing I knew she was straddled on top of me and I never ended up leaving until about noon. I was killer hungry and had a craving for a good philly cheese steak. Stopped on the way home at this joint I know, picked up my sandwich and went home. Life is good. Meeting girls online is a lot of fun

So I have not heard back from Sharon yet and I am pretty pissed off about that even thought things are going well. I really thought she was going to be the one sigh. Anyhoo, I have been chatting with this Spanish girl named Maria for some time now and she expressed that she loves sushi so I told her I would take her to an awesome place. I searched online and thanks to this nice sushi review guide I found, I was able to select Jewel Bako in the East Village to take her to.

The place was amazing and was definitely some of the best sushi I have ever had. Yes it was expensive but I was prepared for that going in and we didn't drink any alcohol while we were there so the bill wasn't too bad. The interior was amazing, the service was amazing and I would definitely go back.

After dinner I decided to switch gears and took her to 11th Street Bar which is an Irish Pub. We had some beers and just chilled and talked for a long while. Turns out that she is 28 years old and she has a 7 year old daughter. I acted like having a kid wasn't a big deal but in my head I was disappointed and unsure if I could handle that kind of "baggage". SHe was definitely mature for her age, but I guess having a kid young will do that to you. She said the father was a deadbeat and was living in Madrid.

She told me she would like to have more kids in the future which again is something I am not sure I want. She was very attractive, and yet very typical looking for a latin woman. I could tell she was definitely attracted to me but she also came across as a very cautious girl and I was thinking that I could probably score with this girl but I wasn't sure if that would open a can of worms... is this the kind of girl I really want?

I took her home, we exchanged a brief kiss and I told her I would talk to her online again soon.

I have been chatting with this woman named Sharon online for a few weeks now and she has finally agreed to go out with me on a date. She is divorced and she is older than me, but she looks really good in her pics and on her webcam when we chat. She has a little boy who is 8 years old and he seems like a good kid. Her husband left her a few years ago, she still really hasn't told me why.

I drove to her house and picked her up. As soon as I saw her long brown hair as she walked out into the crisp cold New York night, my heart started to race. I am used to dating girls that are my age or younger, yeah usually younger so I don't have a lot of experience with older women... though I really shouldn't use that term older women since she doesn't look "old". Her perfume was intoxicating... I don't know what it is, but I'm addicted to the strange scent of a new woman... it's exciting and foreign all at the same time. She had really sexy hips and I had this feeling my conversation wasn't going to be too intelligent tonight. So first we went for dinner at Arabelle Restaurant on 64th St. near Madison Avenue.

The place was amazing. The whole ceiling is round like a dome and gold colored. She was very impressed with the place and I don't think she has much experience dining in high end establishments. She was radiating at the table and the whole time I kept thinking, man I can't believe she is 43 years old... what do I do with a woman like this (other than the obvious)? I ordered a bottle of red wine and we dug into heavy conversation. There was such a build up to meet, that when we finally met it was great. All that chatting online with her made me feel like I already knew her, but once we were there face to face I realized I had only scratched the surface and I was very excited. She was smiling a lot and looking quite sexy in the black dress she was wearing. I had a veal dish and she had salmon. The food was amazing. I will definitely going back there often just based on the food alone.

She was quite knowledgeable for being 43 and yet she had a very young spirit to her and dare I say some innocence which was very refreshing. I felt more jaded than her. After dinner we talked quite a long time, until the restaurant was closing in fact. This was not one of those dates where I slam back drink after drink and visualize the girl naked the whole time she blabs in my ear about her pet cat... no no... I was actually listening to this woman speak and giving her my undivided attention. There was nothing sexual or intense about the whole evening. Just a lot of smiling and soft speaking. This is why I was shocked when we got to her place that she invited me up.

We had one amazing night and I left around 3am grinning from ear to ear after an incredible night of passion. I really hope she was being sincere about the things she was saying because I think that this one could be the one... despite her age.

I really wanted to take this German girl I met to a good Thai restaurant. I looked online to try and find some good reviews of some places and thanks to this nice review, the night went very well. The place we went to was called Sriphraphai in Long Island. I'm glad I made reservations because the place was very busy. Ordering food was a bit of a laugh and my date looked overwhelmed by all the choices and lack of knowledge of Thai food. I ordered a duck dish and she got something vegetarian. I drank a couple of double Bloody Marys kind of quick so most of the eating experience was a bit blurry. She said she liked it, but wouldn't be in a rush to do Thai again :/ That sucks because I really like Thai food and was hoping we could make this a regular thing. We took a cab to her place, exchanged a nice kiss, and she got out. She wasn't really giving me the vibe to come up etc so I played it cool and said goodnight and took the cab back to my place.

I guess for my first real post here I'll share a story about a girl I took out a couple of weeks ago. First off, about the girl: She is 24, just graduated from Columbia in English and is trying to get a job as a school teacher. Not really my type since I didn't go to college and most my friends work for internet businesses, but we really seemed to hit it off so after our first date (which was not much more than coffees and a walk through the park), I decided to try to impress her with something a little higher class without breaking the bank (expensive cocktails aren't that bad if you arrange to meet after dinner!) Plus I've been meaning to check out the Please Don't Tell Club for a while...

The club itself was cool as hell! You walk in through this phone booth inside of another restaurant (Crif Dogs... yes it's gimmicky, but it gave it a great underground exclusive feel). We were there somewhat early (9pm) and on a weekday (tuesday), so it was easy to get intimate seating in the corner... The bartender threw together some great drinks which really was the highlight of the night. I'm usually a beer, wine, and scotch guy, (although my usual clubbing drink is a captain morgans and coke), but I decided to step out of my comfort zone and try out some of their featured items, like a martini made from bacon-infused bourbon and maple syrup! I really did have a blast, and got pretty tipsy towards the end.

My date was not as impressed with the place though... I think it was a bit intimidating for her, and she was kind of uncomfortable until she had a few pomegranite martinis herself... That's not to say we didn't have a good time together, but I think the environment kind of threw her off (especially coming from a college background) and we may have had a better time at a local sports bar type of place. Oh well, live in learn... I'll definitely go back there even if she doesn't!

We agreed on a date number three, but I haven't called her yet... Maybe one night next week if I'm in the mood for something more cultural, like theatre? Not really my style but I try to keep an open mind.